For a long time I have debated within myself about speaking out about homosexuality and same-sex marriage. Afterall, I have friends that are bisexuals, gays, lesbians and transgendered individuals. I also spent quite a few years of my life trying to figure out my own sexuality and I did not want to seem hypocritical or condescending. Yet, I never set out to live a life that was perfect, popular or politically correct. I set out to live my life as a follower of Jesus Christ, and I have found no place in the Bible that supports same-sex marriage or homosexuality. Homosexuality as well as fornication as well as adultery, pornography, incest, and molestation are sexual perversions and deviations from God’s original plan. Regardless of how good, right, natural, accepting, and popular homosexuality, adultery or fornication seems to be, it is still sin. Homosexuality, adultery and fornication are destructive to the spirit, soul and body and they have the potential to destroy people, families, and nations.
Yet, the only thing I know that may be more destructive than sexual sin itself, is the way people who call themselves Christians treat people who struggle with sexual sin and I think this causes God just as much pain. In the Bible (John 8:1-11), when the people wanted to stone the woman who was caught in adultery, Jesus replied, “…he without sin, cast the first stone.” I think Christians need to remember this before stoning people with their words and judging people’s sexual behavior. After everyone had dropped their stones and left, Jesus said to her, “…go and sin no more.” He didn’t try to cast demons out of her. He didn’t tell her she couldn’t go to the temple until she was completely delivered. He didn’t read scriptures from the Torah about adultery. He didn’t tell her to grow her hair back, take off her earrings, or put on a longer skirt. He simply defended her from the people, released her from the guilt and shame that had been placed upon her and He acknowledged that she had sinned.
I can never really talk about that story without getting emotional. When I was struggling with my sexuality I carried so much shame, guilt, and pressure that I literally wanted to end my life to get away from the inner turmoil that I was experiencing. I can’t help but see myself as that lady caught in adultery, surrounded by angry onlookers ready to throw sharp and jagged stones at me for getting caught in the light for something I had done in the dark. To know that Jesus never had one intention of throwing anything at me but grace and mercy is overwhelming.
I think the Body of Christ has forgotten what it feels like to be absolutely guilty, on the brink of condemnation, but saved by Grace. If we really want to reach the lost, the hurting, the confused, we need to return to that place, where God met us, saved us, and pushed us forward to live.
Homosexuality, fornication, adultery, incest, molestation are wrong. Yet, only a person without sin has a right to cast a stone and The Person Without Sin chose not to.